Relationships

We have had such an amazing time with Kofo yesterday. His pastoral gift is indeed a great blessing to the church and it is such a privilege to have him sharing his heart on relationships with our home church. What he shared was really relevant to the age group as well as most of them are university students, young adults or single men and women who are en route to finding their other halves.

It is good to have the wisdom and guidance as to what to look out for in men-women relationships. Kofo encouraged the young and vulnerable girls to treasure and protect themselves as they are jewels in God's eyes. He encouraged men and women of God to not just get into a relationship for fun or for the sake of it but see 'dating' or 'courtship' as a tool to know each other better and explore whether they are meant for one another. In this cyber world, many relationships and marriage have been made cheap and 'instant'. People get married one day and fell out of each other the next. Divorce is so common here in the west and is increasing alarmingly even in the east.
Many people, and sadly including Christians may not understand marriage as God intended it to be - a lasting-covenant relationship.

Eve was created to be Adam's helper. Women are created to 'help' men, the same word used to describe the Holy Spirit as our Helper. Kofo made us look up the word of "help" which most of us may not have fully understood it to be. According to online dictionary (Thesaurus) To help means to:

To give assistance to; aid:
To contribute to the furtherance of
To give relief to
To ease; relieve medication to help your cold.
To change for the better; improve
To be of service

That is why marriage is such a kingdom thing, it is in the very central of God's purposes and intention. The Church is the bride of Christ. Marriage is about serving one another, encouraging one another and to help the other party to be all that God wants them to be. It is not about me. It is about our spouse, to assist them and to add onto their lives. I personally have learned so much from my marriage. I learn to see my husband as God sees him. I learn to be patient with myself and with him (patience - this is another word that is often overlooked of its meaning in completeness). I learn to serve him and think honour him, to allow him to take the lead and to submit to his leading.

It is so important to consider, during courtship, whether the man is someone who can take the lead (not in selfish, arrogant, chauvinistic way) but in a godly way which will lead to the empowerment of both the man and woman in their calling in God. There is so much more that I am learning and I an thankful that the Holy Spirit is my Helper and He constantly speaks to me and convicts me to be obedient and to be a holy and reverential woman of God. Thank You, Lord! :)

I pray that the group will take all that You have spoken to us on board and that each of them will find their respective husbands/wives who will lead to strong and powerful marriages in the Church that will bring glory to our Creator who is Love!

God is Awesome!!!